While research has shown that the reasons why a woman decides to cheat are different from those of a man, it doesn't make it any easier to deal with. Men have a great deal of pride and nothing is as hurtful as finding out your wife or girlfriend is cheating on you. Before you go accusing her of such events you need to find out for sure. You definitely don't want to destroy your relationship if you are merely being insecure.

One of the most important warning signs that an affair may occur that a man needs to be aware of is the happiness of his partner. If the woman feels loved, appreciated, and desired she will be more content than one who feels neglected. Women often engage in affairs because they need someone to talk to and to make them feel good about themselves. If you aren't taking the time to do this for your wife or girlfriend then you need to be prepared that someone else many end up meeting these needs for her.

Look for changes in her behavior that may give her more time to spend with someone else. If she suddenly starts encouraging you to hang out more with your friends or she looks for excuses to leave the house alone she may be going to meet with someone else. If she spends more time than usual on the phone or computer when you aren't around then you should be nervous.

Pay attention to the interests your woman has and try to be a part of them. If she has resolved herself to the fact that you aren't interested in doing these things with her then she will find someone who does enjoy them. Women love to sit and talk openly so be sure you are her friend as well. You definitely don't want her turning to a male friend to share all of her life with. These relationships often blossom into something more because of the emotional attachment they find to each other.

Look for changes in her daily routine. Is your wife or girlfriend out the door before you get up for work when she used to be snuggled up under the covers? Is she working later than before and not hungry when she comes home? She may be skipping out on your leisurely Sunday afternoons that you both enjoyed so much as your time together.

For women to want to have sex they have to feel an emotional connection. They may engage in it occasionally when they don't want to for your sake but that all stops when they are seeing someone else. If she is really connecting with another man she may view it as cheating on him if she is having sex with you.

Some women begin to experiment with new positions when they are having an affair. This is because something they tried with the other person was quite a turn on to them or they want to be more experienced for that person. Don't view any sexual advances by your wife or girlfriend as meaning she is having an affair but it can be a red flag if other signs are present in your relationship.

It can be very difficult to face the reality that your wife or girlfriend is having an affair. However you owe it to yourself and your relationship to find out for sure. If your suspicions don't go away you may want to simply ask your wife or girlfriend if it is taking place.